Although joy, optimism and happiness are considered by today’s Western civilization to be the ideal emotional states, they are not the only emotions a human being can experience. That is to say, not all the time, everyone can live life from these emotions.
Thus, most specialists in psychology and human behavior agree that sadness is a feeling, inherent to the human condition, which happens whenever the individual experiences a situation of loss, defeat, frustration or disappointment, among other negative experiences, which may generate this feeling, associated with a feeling of decay, which may be accompanied by other symptoms such as crying, lack of sleep or appetite, discouragement or body fatigue, among others.
Consequently, sadness is a natural feeling, and almost always healthy, which is gradually overcome, as it is processed, accepted and transcends the experience that has caused it. However, sometimes it can happen that sadness occurs without any obvious reason that the individual can relate to their emotional distress, as well as it can happen that a feeling of sadness, caused by something in particular, extends beyond the time considered prudent, which is generally estimated to 15 days.
Therefore, Psychology estimates that in both cases, that is, when the sadness doesn´t correspond to some specific cause, or on the contrary, this feeling exceeds two or three weeks, one can then speak of depression, a psychological situation, which as far as possible should be addressed by a specialist, who will determine its causes and specific treatment, since far from what most people think, depression doesn´t depend in all cases on the will of the individual.
However, in cases where it is only sadness, or a low mood, it may be positive to try to console and lead the person to a different state, which may be done through music, recreational activities, travel or even some motivational phrase, which in a nutshell manages to convey the importance of overcoming sadness, and go back to a state of joy and optimism.
In this sense, there are numerous phrases of encouragement that can be obtained in universal and contemporary literature, both those that can be extracted from specific texts, and those that have been directly said or written for the purpose of serving as an inspiring phrase, for those who are going through a period of sadness or melancholy. Here are some of these kinds of quotes or phrases:
Dr. Seuss (1904 – 1991)
Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.
An example of the many phrases of encouragement that can be found in the various web portals is this prayer, attributed to Dr. Seuus, pseudonym used by the American writer and cartoonist Theodor Seuss Geisel, who with it basically makes a call to those who have entered the sadness of the hand of a personal loss.
In this regard this writer points out that most of the time sadness comes from the individual’s ability to only see the negative, focusing on the end of the experience that brought gratification, instead of celebrating the opportunity of having lived or shared that experience. Consequently, sadness may also be a matter of perspective or focus.
Brian Tracy (1944)
Never say anything about yourself that you don’t want to become reality.
Even if it’s not in itself a phrase expressly aimed at raising the mood of the individual, this sentence by the American motivational speaker, Brian Tracy can be used as an important warning, since sadness can sometimes lead people to desire or say things they don’t really want, but when they pronounce them -according to what this speaker has said- they can decree or attract them, or even -from a more scientific perspective- program them neurolinguistically speaking.
Therefore, to paraphrase Tracy, perhaps the best thing in times of sadness is to turn to calm, and not to make judgments, desires or decisions advised by this feeling, but to wait for positive emotions to emerge.
Marcus Aurelius (121 B.C. – 180 B.C.)
When you wake up in the morning, think of the precious privilege of being alive, breathing, thinking, enjoying and loving.
Another example of the many motivational phrases that can be used to raise the mood of the individual is this one, attributed to the famous Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius, who placed the accent on the great riches that life gives: breathing, thinking, loving, enjoying the things that only life allows to experience.
In this sense, the meaning of this phrase could be translated to the importance of not focusing only on the negative experience one has had, but on all the other things that make up life, and even on life itself, which -following the meaning of this phrase by Marcus Aurelius- is in reality a true privilege.
Victor Hugo (1802 – 1885)
Even the darkest night will end with the sunrise.
Another aspect that sadness can also have is the strange feeling that you are on a dark and endless path. Faced with this sensation, it is also positive to bear in mind the phrase of Victor Hugo, a 19th-century French writer, who in this sentence reminds us that every night, however gloomy it may be, is always followed by a dawn, in which the sunrise illuminates and gives colour to life once again. Therefore, in the face of sadness, one shouldn´t surrender, but continue, knowing that better times will come.
Steve Maraboli (1975)
Happiness isn´t the absence of problems, it is the ability to deal with them.
Likewise, this prayer by the American writer and motivational speaker, Steve Maraboli, who exposes the importance of erasing from the mental plane that happiness is an ideal state, where there are no setbacks or regrettable events, can be used as an example of encouragement phrases, or to lift the spirits. On the contrary, Maraboli points out that happiness has problems, but the possibility of remaining with this feeling lies in the individual’s ability to assume them as an essential part of life, as well as issues that can be resolved, without this harming personal well-being or love for life.
- R. Tolkien (1892 – 1973)
If we valued food, joy and songs about gold, the world would be happier.
For his part, the English writer, JRR Tolkien also used some of his many pages to reflect on the secret of happiness in the human species. In this sense, one can once again underline the issue that exists as to the focus that is used to see life, since – in tune with Tolkien – if the individual puts his happiness on the material, by combining it with ambition, he may never have enough to be happy, while if he focused his attention on things that are truly worthwhile and give pleasure, in this case “food, joy and songs”, according to Tolkien’s phrase, perhaps he would feel more happiness.
Alan Cohen (1954)
Use pain as a stone in your path, not as a camping area.
Another important aspect of transcending or taking care of depression is to take into account the time factor when dealing with sadness, not allowing this feeling to spread for more days than it should. One of the phrases that address this issue is this, attributed to the American businessman Alan Cohen for whom the most important thing, when facing a situation of sadness, is to know that: that it is simply a moment in life, and that soon things will happen, and you will feel positive emotions again.
Fall seven times, rise eight.
However, not only recognized thinkers or writers have expressed opinions about the importance of moving forward in the face of adversity, but popular wisdom has also issued judgments in which one can see how the individual is driven to continue beyond setbacks.
An example of this can be this proverb typical of Japanese culture, in which it is recognized that in life there are circumstances that can make the individual fall into his mood and desire, but that nevertheless must always be above this the ability and willingness to get up and continue fighting, as the only way to stay in life, from a positive approach.
Scott Fitzgerald (1896 – 1940)
Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
In the same sense, one can take the phrase of the American writer Scott Fitzgerald, for whom the important thing was to assume a fighting attitude in life, convincing oneself that one will always be immersed in battles, without any defeat of them being considered the final defeat. Therefore, a small setback is actually a lost battle, but the attitude must be to go back over the circumstances, and continue in the fight, because sooner or later perseverance and personal talent will bear fruit. Final defeat doesn´t exist in a life of continuous struggle.
The important thing in life is to change the mechanical and negative attitude with which various circumstances are assumed, especially the most adverse ones. If you liked this article, share it and write your comments. You can also suggest what topics you want us to write about. Your opinion is too much valuable to us.
October 29, 2019
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